[LearnMe Date]

Pairs well with: increasing understanding, feeling known, reducing guesswork, improving teamwork

Level of connection: 🐣(nearing/early commitment), 🪿 (established relationship)

Below you’ll find pre-date best practices, a date flow, pre-written prompts, and a few ways to alter the experience if you have any limitations (i.e. less time available). A reference of lowercase “date” refers to this experience, and capitalized “Date” refers to the person you’re sharing this experience with.

Pre-date prep

• Optional: Check out this article on feeling known and learning each other as a “flow” hack.

• Extend a thoughtful invitation: if you didn’t pick this experience together, make sure to invite your Date in a thoughtful way. You can decide how much to share in the invitation - but at minimum, please share expected start time, duration and anything that would be important for them to prep for (practical pieces like attire, or mental, such as “everything is taken care of, you just need to show up”)

• The reveal: you can share what the date is / is about in advance so they have an opportunity to opt in, or you can give context at the beginning of the date for a surprise element.

  • I’d recommend gauging mental / emotional capacity in advance for any dates involving internal reflection or deeper conversation. Or, for activities that require some kind of physicality, pick a day where they’re likely to have more energy. Please see #2 in the pre-date ritual section to make sure you’re both available to be present and you flex to what your needs are in the moment.

  • Examples of this date’s reveal:

    • “I know we’re in a good flow right now, and I’d also like to be proactive about learning about each others’ needs so we know how to take care of each other when a challenging situation comes up”

    • “I know we’ve had some rocky moments recently, and I’d like us to feel like a team - even when things feel crunchy. Are you open to learning each other a little more so we’re better prepared the next time something comes up?”

• This date’s prep work (you can manage yourself if you are treating your Date to the experience - recommended - or you can divide and conquer).